Sometime back, Laura, a friend of mine, shared her story with me, when she was a young lady, she and her cousin made a wish list. In a year, both had attracted men of their dreams…Her cousin is still happily married 25 yrs later. For Laura, things did not pan out, why not? When Laura made her list, she forgot to add, spiritually inclined. Her boyfriend had all the great qualities she had wanted, but was completely against her meditation practices. Well, she found out, that was the quality she most cherished, hence broke off the relationship.
Often a wish list is flawed, as it is based on demands of the Ego (based on your temporary likes and dislikes), for eg: I want a doctor who makes so much money or a beautiful girl who can cook. Well, if you really understood yourself well, these qualities may not be what you are really seeking.
In my case I was very open, I let the higher power decide for me. The only thing I asked for was, she should either be a meditation practitioner or be interested in meditation.
It is an eternal law of the Universe that he/she who knows what she/he wants always get just exactly that. Can this law be put into use for finding romantic love within a stipulated time? There is something to be said about clarity in finding love. The degree, quality and speed of manifesting a relationship is directly dependent on the purity of your intention.
It is common to see singles making a “wish list” of qualities they are looking for in a potential mate. A list brings out qualities we deeply desire in a mate. A list gives you what you need first than what you want.
Just as a knife can be used to both perform surgery and injure another person the same way making lists to find love can be both advantageous or injurious to your love life. All I recommend is not be too attached to your list. How do you make a list and still not be bound by it?
Japanese designers have come up with what they claim is the perfect solution for the unattached woman – the boyfriend pillow. And it is an ideal sleeping partner because it doesn’t snore, hog the duvet – or sleep around.”
A fun list from a woman:
Perfect boyfriend list circa 1989: Cute. On lacrosse team. And, like, totally likes me.
Perfect boyfriend list circa 1999: Has a great job. Social. Lives in same city.
Perfect boyfriend list circa 2008: Big heart. Faithful. Fun. Potentially a great dad.
Even now, with all we know of love and life, when women start listing what we’re looking for in a guy, it still usually starts with his looks, his location, his job, or OK, maybe his sense of humor. But the truth is that any man — any height, any place, any job — can be the perfect boyfriend if he expresses the qualities that women really want. The things that speak to our hearts and affect us on a daily, weekly or monthly basis… the things we often forget we want in a guy until we see an old John Cusack movie.”
In your case, you could take your wish list seriously but at the same time not be too attached to it. One thing is certain; if you practice Yoga techniques to find love, you will know when you find the right one. You will have a healthy approach to making a list. One key quality I noticed in Deypika was, her commitment. I really admire that quality, subconsciously that was a quality in which would have rated high on my list.
A dear friend wrote this:
I have been always against lists (for your mate), so I was asked to make a list, so as a sign of rebellion I made it in such detail that was almost impossible to match (he has to like this and that, paint, play the harmonic…a, blues eyes, writer, etc.) Well, I met him, it took me two years to realize he met EVERY single “requirement” of that list – at the end I realized he was not the type of guy for me :).
Preparing the mind before making the list:
There are two elements to be considered when you seek a “settle down” relationship, a known and an unknown. The known elements are the outer physical appearance, being in touch with your emotions and how you are feeling at the moment.
The challenge lies in preparing the mind for the unknown, what can happen after the honeymoon period is over? To have a sportive spirit to say, love is just not happiness all the time, it also involves growth, an uncomfortable expansion of the heart, to strengthen the mind to deepen the relationship to face any challenge.
Take a silent retreat for the next three weeks every Saturday for four to six hours or so. Write a journal of things you want to say to your potential partner.
Yoga way of making a list to find love before Christmas:
1. Make a list of the best qualities, things you have, which you can GIVE. What is that beautiful quality, thing you can offer, is there something really special within you, what is that? Identify that first! (In my case, it was spirituality, I introduced her to meditation, taught Deypika meditation for the first time, during sunset)
2. Make a list of non-negotiable qualities (for eg: psycho and drug addicts off-limits)
3. Make a list of values, character traits which you admire
4. A list of other outer things like job, looks, height, weight etc;
A soulful, sincere Yoga approach will activate the great laws of creation to send you a superb, stable mate.
Sample Scenario:
What happens when you think you have found the one? What do I do?
– Develop friendship first, let Love blossom slowly like a flower with friendship as the foundation.
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